Waiting for my Bashert

I saw a cartoon once that showed three skeletons It was captioned, "Three women waiting for the perfect man. Indeed there is no one perfect match for any of us, but I do believe that some people are meant to come together be it for marriage, for a meeting, for friendship or for a beautiful moment. I have a friend who says nothing is by chance. I am not sure of that but I do know that inadvertently we set the stage for people to come into our lives. When we meet someone who bonds with us quickly and deeply, Jewish people say that the meeting was bashert...meant to be.
Many people believe that the person they will marry is bashert and they, like the women in the cartoon, must wait until he/she happens along.
I think that we create our basherts. In other words when we are ready to engage in the give and take of any kind of a relationship be it marriage, friendship, companionship or a business dealing, we allow it to happen by letting down our defenses.
I am always waiting for a bashert and that bashert is there to love me, laugh with me and dance with me whenever I let unlock the gates.
It is interesting to me that the people I associate with and love today are so very different from those I sought when I was younger. Perhaps that they are no longer in my life is also bashert.
Perhaps I have widened my horizons to let more wonderful human beings share in the bounty I call my life. And that is a very good thing. It is beautifully bashert.