How we are programmed

My dear friend John Ambrose has a granddaughter Emily who is fat. My sister is fat. ...300 pounds fat. I just saw a play where one of the characters was very fat...and I reacted with superiority and disapproval.(I am, by the way, thin.)
I saw this darling little child, Emily eating with great gusto and IN MY HEAD I thought, "Someone ought to make that kid stop eating so much junk food or she will be big as a horse."
I look at my sister whom I hate because of her consistent sociopathic behavior toward me and I think IN MY HEAD (an sometimes out loud) "That fat pig! She wants everything for herself and gobbles up people just like she does food. She cannot get enough."
I looked at the fat lady dancing on the stage and I thought IN MY NOW OVERSTUFFED HEAD:"Boy she sure moves fast for such a fat horse."
Our society has programmed us to think that fat people over-indulge and over-stuff themselves with an excess of everything when in reality, each of us has a natural weight that our bodies will reach and stay if WE DON'T FUSS WITH THEM. If we were able to listen to our bodies and know when they are hungry and feed them only what they need, we would all be healthy and a lot of different, comfortable shapes. When we diet, when we intellectualize what we eat and what size our hips should be, we have robbed our physical selves of the right to find a comfortable state of being. When we project a personality trait on someone because they are skinny(over achiever, anorexic, hyper active, too intense, we have lost the delightful variety of a heterogeneous society: one that features all kinds of people and many definitions of beauty. We SAY that externals are superficial but until we stop judging others by their size, we are perpetuating the myth that size and shape ARE personality.
Hooray for Emily!!! Let her love her hot fudge sundaes and enjoy every bite. She is totally adorable and one more inch on her will only give us more of her to love.
I can no longer blame my sister's size for her disgusting personality. Our family let that happen. In reality she eats far less than I do. She is just genetically fat.
And rah rah rah for the lady on stage. Shake it Honey!!! You were great.